Wednesday, July 4, 2012

My experance with Breastfeeding

When my first son was born, My wife had a lot of trouble breastfeeding. It seemed that no matter how hard we tried, she just was not getting the milk supply needed. But even though we tried, there was more we could have done but we didn't know at the time. after about four weeks she gave-up.

I felt really bad for all three of us. My wife, because I know how much she really wanted to give our son that closeness, attention and nourishment he needed. Our son because he need that closeness, attention and nourishment. And me, well I guess, because I needed it too.

Let me explain. I have always been a breast man. I have always wanted to taste breast milk and have always longed and fantasized of being breastfeed. But I was always too shy and embarrassed to say or admit to it. When my son was born, my shyness kept me from trying the milk or from trying to breastfeed off of my wife. And so I didn’t breastfeed except only one time. But then she had pretty much given up on breastfeeding.

When my second son was born. My wife still had problems breastfeeding and she was about to give up. I remembered the doctors saying, the more milk that is expressed the faster and greater the milk production. And so I convinced her to let me get the milk flowing by suckling. After a few days, we finally had success. As I watched my wife breastfeed my son, I saw how affectionate loving she was to him. But it wasn’t just toward him, it was with all of us.

The breast part was not always as sexual for me. There was a much deeper feeling of intimacy that I can not express nor explain.

When I had convinced my wife to let me help extract the milk from her breast to help with milk production. Ohhhh God was it great! There were times that while she was breastfeeding me. I felt something I couldn’t explain. During that time I have felt her loving embrace, a closeness and feeling of total acceptance. I truly felt needed, wanted and closer to her then ever before. She didn’t anger near as easy. she seemed calmer and less tense as well.

After a few months she stopped breastfeeding because of issues at work (time, privacy). When she stopped breastfeeding our son, she would allow me on her breast now and then when we went to bed. But now the reason for me to extract milk from her breast was gone. I started to feel uncomfortable. I didn’t know how she felt or weather or not she wanted to continue. A few nights after she decided to stop breastfeeding our son. We were in bed and she was holding me up to her breast. She started to say something about me on her breast. But she stopped. I was hoping she was going to say she wanted to continue breastfeeding. But because she didn’t finish. I was unsure and my fear, shyness and doubts set in. Because of the lack of encouragement and my shyness, fears and doubts. I pulled away, even though I wanted it and I regretted pulling away ever since.

After a while, she would allow me to suckle now and then. But it didn't feel the same. The embrace and closeness was no longer there. My shyness and my fear of her perception of me had overcome me and I could only suckle for a short time. When she dried up, I was rarely allowed to suckle on her breast. It was never the same after that. I never felt her loving embrace, closeness or same deep sense of intimacy the same way again. I did try to tell her how I felt. But it was too late.

A couple months later I found several sites on breastfeeding relationships. I began to realize why she changed. I tried show her a site on Adult breastfeeding relationships. But she only read a few lines of it. She said that her breast doesn’t feel the same as before and it is uncomfortable when I sucked them. With that I understood and I try not to encourage it as much any more. But my needs and desires are still there.

Now and then I will go into the relationship support groups and read articles on adult breastfeeding relationships. I often become so jealous. I miss the time that I was able to breastfeed from my wife and I still have a deep longing for it along with that closeness. While in a few of the support groups, I did find out why her breast don’t feel the same and why she anger so easy now verses then.

Sometime later as I was read through a support group. I did find out what I was doing wrong and I experimented it with success. It made her so horny and she started to show some of that affection. All this time the way I was suckling on her breast was the wrong way. I didn’t know nor did I understand. I often got little or no feedback from her with it.

My wife and I did eventually talk little about it. She agreed that before she dried up, It felt good and she was enjoying it. If she had known of the other benefits. She my have continued. But now she is just not interested in it and the time just isn’t there. I wished I could have had this talk before she dried up. Things may have been different.

I try not to ask or encourage it from my wife. But the need and desires for that intimacy we once shared is still there. I know I most likely will never feel that same deepness of intimacy from my wife again. But I am hoping that this helps others get over the Taboos and see for them self’s the benefits of Adult breastfeeding.

Adult breastfeeding isn’t for everybody. But there are hundreds of thousands and maybe millions of people in the world who are either into or want a breastfeeding relationship. Look for your self's and you will see.
last time I checked, there was over 4 Million sites dedicated to adult breastfeeding/ adult nursing relationships. This did not include P 0 R N.


Google “adult breastfeeding relationships”
Google “adult nursing relationships”
Google “can adults benefit from drinking breast milk”

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your post. I am thinking about starting a relationship like this one when I meet the right guy. For now I am just getting as much infos as i can :).

Boony said...

Im sorry you and your lady had such a rough time of it...Perhaps, hopefully, she will be willing to try again in the future.
Like yourself, Ive never seen a woman's breasts as just for sexual purposes nor are they just for providing sustenance...Nor should they ever be relegated to just one function or the other...I believe in fact that when theyre appreciated in all their possible functions that more pleasure and contentment result.

Anonymous said...

There is nothing as comforting and beautiful as an ANR. I have been lactating for 10 years with 3 "freshening" periods. I allow men with cancer to suckle me for nourishment, comfort and the proven life sustaining benefits. These are not sexual relationships but health giving ones. I consider myself so gifted to be able to supply these men with my milk to help them heal. It has been very difficult to persuade the medical community that this is NOT sexual but I continue. I absolutely love being suckled until empty only to fill up with milk again for the next hungry mouth. I have cradled these men in my arms as they suckled and watched as their eyes filled with joy and gratitude. I am so very lucky.

Anonymous said...

Interesting.. thank you for the knowledge.. :)

Irene

Lorenzo said...

I just want to add something here for the original poster. Inducing and maintaining lactation involves a serious time commitment from both of you. If she has to work, help take care of the children, help with household chores, etc., it's easy to see why she doesn't want to add lactation into the mix. It is quite demanding.

That being said, have you ever considered dry nursing? That closeness, intimacy, and affection that you felt...you don't need milk to experience that. The milk is a perk, but dry nursing will provide almost all of the benefits you desire. It will bring you both closer, and you two will feel amazing.

Give it a try. Ask her if she would be willing to dry nurse you. No milk. I promise you, man, you won't regret it. Plus, when things slow down and the kids are grown up, you two may have much more time to pursue lactation again later on. Age does not matter. She can produce milk for the rest of her life.

Who knows? She may begin to love dry nursing you so much, that she'll want to re-lactate for you. Only time will tell.

Hope this helps.

Naomi Christain said...

I don’t know your wife’s reasons. I hope this helps you both find a fair solution.

My husband has been trying to get me to breastfeed him for some time. I felt he had some form of boob fetish. I didn’t want to understand or listen to what he had to say about it. I would ask God to help him get over his fetish. It seemed God was not listening to me and things were only getting worse.

I placed a post asking for help http://mommanaomi.blogspot.com/2012/06/my-husband-has-obsession-for-my-breasts.html. I was surprised at the responses. People were supportive in there own way. Most were vary blunt about with their answers. Some even pointed out the words of God. They helped me understand how to approach it. I know now it’s not a fetish and approaching is as such was the wrong approach.

I feel bad for you and I’m beginning to understand why my husband may won’t it so bad. I wish I could help your wife see what I have seen. Just keep praying, Gods listening. You just got to listen to him and be patient.